Ladies, it's your turn. You may have just joined us. If so, know that I've been throwing some items at the guys over the past few weeks. Check out All the Single Fellas and All the Single Fellas Part Duex. I won't take the time to go through the mass amounts of emails that I've received. I've been called everything from "Legalistic" to, my personal favorite, "intense" over the past few weeks. One guy said, "Sure, that's great for you... you're married." I totally understand where these guys are coming from. I would, however, ask, "Why?" and "Have you?" Why are you angry or frustrated over this conversation reveals some heart issues. Even more revealing is the "Have you gone to God's Word for yourself on this topic? Have you surrounded yourself by wise counselors (which, wise in this case does not mean experienced... it means, do they point you to the Word or to their opinion?). Usually, this reveals the motive behind the frustration.
Ladies, God has uniquely created you in His image. You, sister (if you are a follower of Jesus), are just that... a sister. You, daughter of God, are to find your identity solely in the cross. Yeah, the stereotypes are true--a lot of you have had horrible fathers. As a result, you may be tempted to find your value and worth in misguided affection. The beauty of the Gospel is that a lover has pursued you. Your task, as a woman, is simply to respond. His lovingkindness--His loyal, covenant love that does not take into account the worth of the individual--endures forever. I pray that you are marked by this love and there, in it, you will find your identity as a woman.
What does the Bible say about being a woman? It is a rich topic. It is one that both women and men need to be aware of in our culture. Never in the history of the world has there been such an all out war on the biblical model of masculinity, femininity, and how the two relate to one another.
Ladies, God has created you in His image to be a responder. He has created man, also in His image, to be the initiator. Everything revolves around this principle, including the make-up of your anatomy. The wisdom of Song of Solomon rings true--"Do not awaken love until it so desires!" and another wise one--"Guard your heart, for from it flows the wellspring of life."
My prayer, as a singles pastor and as a father of one super-cute little girl, is that you will look to your heavenly Father in the Word to know what it means to guard your heart, be a woman of excellence, fear the Lord, have strength and dignity as your adornment... just to name a few.
Enjoy this talk from the other end of the conversation.